Chicago Seduction
Rapport Bending
By: Ablaze
You’ve heard of rapport building. You’ve heard of rapport breaking. How about rapport bending? Building and
breaking rapport are very complicated and intricate concepts, but simply put, building rapport is making a connection,
aligning, and coming into synchronicity with another person. Conversely, breaking rapport is a severing of the
connection. Rapport bending is any kind of tension placed on your connection with another person that does not fully
break it. Let’s take a look at just a few of the many ways that rapport bending can be used in field.
When interacting with a woman, a light rapport bend could be a shifting of your body, a distracted glance, body
rocking, or any kind of slight distancing of yourself. Your voice tone may become softer and less engaged. The detail
and effort put forth into the interaction tapers away. If she sticks to your movement, if you feel a slight magnetism
between you and her as you bend rapport, you have some kind of connection, however slight it may be. Light rapport
bending is a low risk/low reward technique, but a useful form of testing the level of a woman’s engagement in a given
interaction and/or a way of shifting the momentum of control.
A heavy rapport bend is akin to bending a stick right up to the threshold of snapping. Heavy rapport bends are useful
when going direct or when time efficiency is the goal. Directly telling a girl that you’re about to walk away (and
meaning it) is an example of a heavy rapport bend. She should see it in your facial expressions, hear it in your voice
tone, and feel it emotionally. If she fights to salvage what she’s about to lose, you may have a significant amount of
attraction with her. Heavy rapport bending is a high risk/high reward power move and should be used with caution
and sparingly, but sometimes crossing the line is what it takes to know where the line is.
Rapport bending is something that all people do, consciously and unconsciously. It’s intricately woven into our
behavioral systems to test our limitations. Becoming more conscious of the tensions we place on interactions,
through experimentation with rapport bending, can lead to greater levels of social intelligence, a better ability to read
peoples’ levels of engagement, and a more in depth understanding of peoples’ boundaries. For those who shy
away from adversity and don’t feel comfortable breaking rapport, rapport bending can also be used as a transitional
stepping-stone.
The ability to bend rapport, smoothly and with cadence, comes from practice and real life execution. The next time
you’re about to break rapport, see if a rapport bend is all it takes to shift the momentum of the interaction. Don’t think
in black and white terms when it comes to building and breaking rapport. Experiment with different shades of gray.
By: Ablaze
You’ve heard of rapport building. You’ve heard of rapport breaking. How about rapport bending? Building and
breaking rapport are very complicated and intricate concepts, but simply put, building rapport is making a connection,
aligning, and coming into synchronicity with another person. Conversely, breaking rapport is a severing of the
connection. Rapport bending is any kind of tension placed on your connection with another person that does not fully
break it. Let’s take a look at just a few of the many ways that rapport bending can be used in field.
When interacting with a woman, a light rapport bend could be a shifting of your body, a distracted glance, body
rocking, or any kind of slight distancing of yourself. Your voice tone may become softer and less engaged. The detail
and effort put forth into the interaction tapers away. If she sticks to your movement, if you feel a slight magnetism
between you and her as you bend rapport, you have some kind of connection, however slight it may be. Light rapport
bending is a low risk/low reward technique, but a useful form of testing the level of a woman’s engagement in a given
interaction and/or a way of shifting the momentum of control.
A heavy rapport bend is akin to bending a stick right up to the threshold of snapping. Heavy rapport bends are useful
when going direct or when time efficiency is the goal. Directly telling a girl that you’re about to walk away (and
meaning it) is an example of a heavy rapport bend. She should see it in your facial expressions, hear it in your voice
tone, and feel it emotionally. If she fights to salvage what she’s about to lose, you may have a significant amount of
attraction with her. Heavy rapport bending is a high risk/high reward power move and should be used with caution
and sparingly, but sometimes crossing the line is what it takes to know where the line is.
Rapport bending is something that all people do, consciously and unconsciously. It’s intricately woven into our
behavioral systems to test our limitations. Becoming more conscious of the tensions we place on interactions,
through experimentation with rapport bending, can lead to greater levels of social intelligence, a better ability to read
peoples’ levels of engagement, and a more in depth understanding of peoples’ boundaries. For those who shy
away from adversity and don’t feel comfortable breaking rapport, rapport bending can also be used as a transitional
stepping-stone.
The ability to bend rapport, smoothly and with cadence, comes from practice and real life execution. The next time
you’re about to break rapport, see if a rapport bend is all it takes to shift the momentum of the interaction. Don’t think
in black and white terms when it comes to building and breaking rapport. Experiment with different shades of gray.
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